The Legacy and the Second Generation
by Terese Pencak Schwartz
When my 85 year-old mother became gravely ill, my mind filled with weighty thoughts. In addition to feeling frightened about being orphaned again, I
realized that no matter how old you are, the death of an ultimate parent still represents an end to your childhood. Even in middle age, since my mother is alive, I am still someone's child. But, once she is
gone, I will have to rely only on my memories.
I am glad that I took the time recently to talk to my mother about her life before she gave birth to me and my sister. It amazed me how little I knew about
someone I have known all of my life. For the first time, my mother shared her stories about enduring the War -- about working in Germany as a slave laborer.
After listening to my mother and to other
Polish survivor's stories, I realize that I have received a weighty bequest -- the legacy of a second generation survivor.
The children of Holocaust survivors have begun to speak out about how their
lives have been impacted being born to survivors. As the second generation survivors pass through parenthood and middle age, they are showing concern about the legacy they have been handed down by their parents.
This enormous legacy can be a burden or a gift. It depends. As a member of the second generation of survivors, I think it depends how we accept it. We can accept it as a gift or burden. For those who
have received this ponderous legacy, I have some words of encouragement: You are not alone. Your feelings are shared by countless others. This is especially important for non-Jewish second generation survivors
to know. The children of non-Jewish survivors have felt much the same pain and burden as children of Jewish survivors -- with one major difference. Non- Jewish children of survivors are often denied the
recognition. Many are not aware that they were victims of the Holocaust too -- some just as much or almost just as much as many of their Jewish friends. Because the Jewish people have worked so hard to make sure
that their children do not forget the tragedies of the Holocaust, non-Jewish survivors have often felt that, by comparison, their parents did not suffer "enough" and that the Holocaust is a
"Jewish thing". Whether one group suffered more intensely is not an issue. There is no doubt that the Jewish people as a whole suffered much more than the non-Jews. But, there is no yardstick for
personal suffering. Personal misery and sorrow cannot be measured. Nor should it be denied.
Non-Jewish children often do not have the same extensive support groups and backup organizations as Jewish
children of survivors. There are many support groups and organizations for second generation survivors, but, from my experience, these groups are almost exclusively Jewish. So, non-Jewish children of survivors
are again being forgotten -- just like their parents.
To some it does not matter. Some feel no burden of being children of survivors. Some feel no desire to accept the legacy as a gift. That is okay.
This bequest is not for everyone. But, for those who accept the legacy of the Holocaust as a gift, I urge you to exploit this precious bequest. It is a part of your history too. Do not let anyone deny that your
parents, your grandparents or your family suffered. Remember that your parents and grandparents were also incarcerated, tortured, enslaved and murdered. Remember that your parents and grandparents fought
valiantly with homemade weapons and utensils to protect their homeland. Remember this important part of your history, not only to honor your forefathers, but also for your children's sake. One day it will be
your turn to pass the legacy on to them.
Check out the author's web site www.holocaustforgotten.com